What Does Pegging Mean And How To Explore It Like A Pro
What does ?pegging? mean?
If you've ever asked yourself, "What does pegging mean?" you're not alone?many people are curious about this increasingly discussed sexual practice. Ultimately, pegging means anal play where a person with a vulva penetrates the anus of a person with a penis using a strap-on dildo and a harness.
It can be a form of role play, power exchange, or gender role reversal where the person with the vulva ?dominates? the penis owner. Switching up power dynamics can be extremely empowering and bring a new sense of pleasure into the bedroom. It?s also a great way for a person with a prostate to unlock a completely new type of orgasm without an erection. For those with performance anxiety or erectile dysfunction, pegging can be a fantastic way to reach new heights of pleasure.
For couples looking to spice things up and get a little more adventurous or switch up their anal play beyond plugs and beads, pegging is the perfect new kink to try out.
The history of pegging and where the term was coined
We?re not exactly sure when the history of pegging began, but the name was coined in 2001 when the popular sexual advice columnist Dan Savage responded to a reader who asked what they could call the activity. In response, he invited readers to invent a new term for a person with a penis getting penetrated by a strap-on, and ?peg? was an option, as was ?punt? and ?bob.? Ultimately, ?peg? won, and today we use the term. So how common is pegging today? Since Savage pegged this term (pun intended), stigma around anal pleasure for people with penises has decreased, and pegging has become more mainstream and popular.
How to prepare to get pegged
As with any new sexual adventure, a conversation should take place beforehand, establishing a safe word system, boundaries, and what?s on and off the table. The next step is shopping for supplies (we?ll get to that next), which you should do with your partner. Shopping for sex toys can ensure everyone feels comfortable with the choice (both the dildo for the person being penetrated and the harness for the person penetrating) and can even be a steamy form of foreplay to get you excited for the act.
Preparation starts with good hygiene ? wash the anal area well with gentle soap and warm water. While a shower or using a bidet should suffice, you can also use a douche or enema if desired, but be careful not to over-douche.
The next step is selecting a toy, but before you go to penetration, relaxation is key. If you haven?t been the receiver during anal play before, it can be helpful to practice deep breathing and to massage the outside of the anus first. This can be done by using a vibrating anal toy externally, using fingers, or even giving a spicy rim job to relax your partner. As with any form of anal play, using lubricant before penetration is absolutely essential.
If you?re using a silicone dildo (which is what most pegging kits come with), a plush water-based lube designed for anal usage is best for long-lasting comfort, or you can use a hybrid lube, which doesn?t have enough silicone to degrade the dildo but will be very slippery and have great longevity. The next step is selecting a toy and using it! Remember, slow and steady is the name of the game.
How to harness your femininity with pegging
Some might think that dominating a partner with a penis is a way to harness masculine energy, but that?s not necessarily true. Pegging isn?t always about ?acting like a man? but instead can be seen as expanding what your feminine power feels like in the bedroom. While there can be some element of gender or role reversal, there?s a way to feel empowered but still connected to your feminine side if that?s what you desire.
You can do this by choosing a harness that makes you feel sexy, a non-phallic dildo, or positions that make you feel graceful and confident. It?s absolutely possible to be in the penetrative role and still feel soft, seductive, and nurturing.
Scandal Crotchless Pegging Panty Set
The Scandal Crotchless Pegging Panty Set is perfect for this, as it comes with an incredibly sexy pair of red and lace black crotchless panties that have total goddess energy. The silicone pegging probe measures 5 inches, making it a beginner-friendly option. It doesn?t feel too phallic, making it one of the best feminine picks.
Bikini Strap On and Silicone Dildo Set
What are the best pegging sex toys?
What does pegging mean for sex toy supplies, and what exactly do you need? You can opt for one of two routes. First, you can purchase a dildo and harness separately. Alternatively, you can also get a beginner pegging set, which includes both. While a set is more beginner-friendly and perhaps more cost-effective since everything comes in a single purchase, separately buying these items allows you more versatility and the ability to choose a harness or dildo that best suits your needs and desires. There are even self-lubricating dildos to make penetration more comfortable and make the role reversal more realistic.
Here are some of our most popular pegging sex toys that?ll get you in the mood for your next session?
This 4-way adjustable harness fits up to 60-inch hips, making it an inclusive option for various sizes. It is ideal for those who find underwear-style harnesses too restrictive. It also has a slim, 5-inch dildo, making it ideal for first-time pegging.
Diki Vibrating Dildo with Harness
If you want a non-realistic dildo and the option of choosing your own harness, this pegging probe is a fantastic and affordable option, regardless of experience levels. The ultra-flexible body makes it easy to control insertion and gentle removal.
Dr. Skin Glide - 8" Self Lubricating Dildo
If you want to go up in size a bit and experience a more realistic sensation but want to make sure things don?t go dry, add a little water to this self-lubricating TPE dildo and voila! Available in three skin tones.
This sleek leather harness for strap-ons is the perfect mix of power and elegance. It can be used with different O Rings and dildos, and can be used with both solid and hollow dildos, making it even more versatile if you want to use it during playtime with a penis sleeve.
How does it feel to get pegged?
For people with penises, the prostate gland is a nerve-dense area that can lead to incredible sensations. Unlike ejaculating through the penis, pegging is often described as a full-bodied experience and an even more intense form of orgasm. Some people say you can even experience multiple prostate orgasms. Prostate toys or a dildo for pegging can stimulate the prostate, but you can always experiment with a finger first. So what does first-time pegging feel like? It?s often described as a sensation of fullness or intense pressure.
Start with some outercourse on the perineum
What does pegging mean for people who don?t quite feel ready for penetration? Does it mean they?ll never get to experience the pleasure from pegging? Nope! It just means that you?re not quite ready yet, and the perfect way to start exploring that territory is with prostate outercourse. While the prostate sits a couple of inches inside the rectum, it can actually be stimulated via the perineum. Using a vibrating anal toy with a flared or wide base, you can lightly circle the skin between the testicles and the penis, playing around with different settings.
If you want to take things to the next level and try inserting a vibrating anal bead or a plug after an external massage has aroused you enough. However, a perineum orgasm is a very real thing. To have a perineum orgasm, use fingers to apply gentle pressure at first, exploring what sensations feel best. Explore with sensual tickles and light touches, or try a deeper form of pressure, rubbing on the skin (always apply lube first to reduce friction).
Once you find a sensation that feels best, keep going, and even combine it with penis stroking to increase the likelihood of an orgasm. For those who have trouble maintaining an erection, massaging the perineum can also boost overall blood flow in the pelvic region, which can increase the strength of erections.
The best pegging and strap-on positions for beginners
If you're new to strap-on play, you might be wondering not just what does pegging mean, but how to actually do it comfortably and confidently with different positions. Don?t worry ? we?ve got your back with good pegging positions that suit your experience level and mobility, whether you?re trying first-time pegging or just looking to spice things up with something different, like a deeper penetration angle.
Spooning
Ideal for increasing intimacy, going slow in the spooning position is great for beginners and is also ideal for anyone looking to reduce pressure on joints or lessen the ?dominating? aspect of pegging. While it?s still technically topping, the bottom will have more control over the depth and speed if pain is a concern.
Doggy style
If you want to dominate more and seek deeper penetration, doggy style can be a sexy option. However, since you?re not seeing the other person?s face, communication and perhaps even a non-verbal safe word is essential. You can also take this position down to the forearms.
Missionary with legs up
This position allows for eye contact and lets the receiver be in a position where their muscles are relaxed. Similar to the Happy Baby yoga pose, the penetrating partner can hold the receiver?s hips up and out for greater control.
Receiver on top
This beginner-friendly position, which we?ll call ?cowperson? for the purpose of remaining gender-neutral, involves the receiving partner straddling the pegging partner?s hips. This is one of the best role reversal positions that lets the receiving partner control depth, angle, and speed. It also gives the partner lying down access to other erogenous zones, like the penis, for added stimulation.
Does pegging make you gay?
Many people are curious and ask the question: Is pegging gay? What does pegging mean for your sexuality? Pegging (meaning a prostate owner being penetrated by a vulva owner) doesn?t dictate your sexuality. A straight guy getting pegged doesn't make them gay, though that myth has been around for years. Anyone who has a prostate can enjoy stimulation around that area and the nerve areas that surround it for a stronger, different kind of orgasm that doesn?t require an erection. Think of it this way - every prostate orgasm you have is a way to stick it to the man and stop perpetuating those stigmas with homophobic undertones.
The upside of pegging for people with vulvas
How does pegging work for the person penetrating, and what?s the draw for a person with a vulva? While grinding against a harness can trigger what does for a person with a vulva, much of the draw is in swapping roles as the pegger, which can be an empowering feeling. Being the penetrator allows that person to assume the dominant role, and going beyond P-in-V intercourse can also lead to better communication about desires, fantasies, boundaries, and checking in with each other in the bedroom. It can bring partners closer together and make other forms of sexual activity better as well.
