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The Best New Tips for Group Sex

By: Naima Karp

Have you ever pictured yourself going to a sex party? Perhaps you’ve imagined a steamy masquerade affair or a couples-only swingers event. The reality is that the possibilities are limitless when it comes to group sex. Although it’s a typical fetish, those who haven’t tried it before might be unaware of the etiquette. There are several kinds of group play, from threesomes to orgies.

Not sure where to begin your journey? Check out our group sex tips below for the spiciest group adventure of your life that will ensure a positive experience for everyone participating. 

The best new tips for group sex

It takes two to tango - or three, four, or more…

Types of group sex

Group play comes in all shapes and sizes. There’s no set way of how to have an orgy or a threesome. In fact, the only rules are the ones that you and the other participators set for yourself to have a consensual and pleasure-packed experience. Here are some different configurations that might appeal to you: 

Threesomes

A threesome is one of the most popular choices and can be done in many configurations with different genders and sexualities. They are an approachable entry point into a group sex for beginners who are not experienced with group sex or get overwhelmed around many people.

Swinging

Otherwise referred to as a foursome, swinging or swinger sex parties generally involve either a group of four friends or two couples. The couples might swap partners or watch each other going at it in the same room. There are often couples-only swinger parties where multiple couples go to watch or participate in swapping partners.

Orgies

Otherwise known as a sex party, having an orgy is when a group of single people and/or couples have sexual relations with each other. A group of people might be paying attention to one person or changing partners often throughout the event.

Tips for group sex

With multiple people, sex can get complicated, and so can the safety and etiquette dynamics. This h is why you should always have discussions beforehand. One of the best tips for safe group sex is always to use a condom or dental dam with new partners if they don’t have recent proof of STI testing or aren’t on contraceptives, but beyond safety, communicating with everyone involved is crucial. You can also speak to the host to get an idea of what will occur at the party, which might give you better peace of mind. If participating feels overwhelming, there’s nothing wrong with embracing your inner voyeur and watching.

Communication

Consent, respect, and boundaries are essential for any form of group play. Setting rules for an orgy or threesome can include agreeing on certain barrier methods, discussing if you’re going to participate with strangers or people you know, and what the etiquette is for communicating afterward (i.e. if you will continue a sexual or friendly relationship or never see them again.) In terms of consent, it’s a must to ask for explicit consent before moving forward. Just because you’re ok with something doesn't mean you should assume your sexual partner will be.

Mutual masturbation

The great thing about flying solo is that it’s never boring - especially when someone else is watching. Mutual masturbation is perfect for getting warmed up (or being the main act) at orgies, but it’s also helpful for group sex with an odd number of people where someone might be left out of the partnered play.

Yes, mutual masturbation parties are a thing! And even at a regular orgy, you can add in solo play whenever you’d like. For people who get off on self-pleasure or are concerned about transmitting STIs, mutual masturbation is the ultimate low-pressure event, and it’s ideal for exhibitionists who want to show off with a solo performance. Although using your hands is always fun, you can up the ante by using toys like strokers, clitoral suckers, and vibrators for this spectator sport. 

Toys

Looking for good sex tips on how to have better orgasms during your group adventure? Easy solution - add sex toys into the mix.

Couples toys

Whether you’re participating in a threesome, a foursome, or a more-some with a room full of people, using couples' sex toys can add a world of pleasure into the mix. 

  • Vibrators and clit suckers
    For vulva owners, getting frisky with vibrators and clit suckers can increase the vibes tenfold. Have someone else use them on you or use them on yourself while they watch. Many couples' sex toys are also remote-controlled, meaning that someone else can dole out different strengths or patterns, watching you writhe in ecstasy. 

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LELO Sila Cruise

  • Cock rings 
    While cock rings like the Night Rider Rechargeable Cock Ring can be used during penetrative sex, they also make for longer, harder masturbation sessions if someone else is watching. You can play with positioning to stimulate the shaft, balls, or perineum for some moan-worthy sensations. 

Night Rider Rechargeable Cock Ring

Night Rider Rechargeable Cock Ring

 

  • Sexy games
    It’s not a party unless there are games to be played! Whether it’s naughty dice helping to inspire positions, card games, or trivia questions that’ll make your partners sweat, these dirty games will create chemistry like never before. 

naughty diceSex! Dice

How to share toys safely

A clean home is a happy home, and we believe the same for sex toys, even more so if they're being shared! Sex toy hygiene is an absolute must for group play of any sort since sharing toys can spread STIs, yeast infections, and more. Always disinfect a used toy before passing it to someone else.

Clit suckers, vibrators, and cock rings are generally more straightforward to clean (use warm soap and water as well as an antibacterial toy cleaner if desired), but cleaning male masturbators might take a little more time and effort. Rinse the inside thoroughly with warm soap and water, then reach inside to dry with a cloth internally before drying the outside. With TPE materials, you might want to add a refresh powder afterward, which can make your stroker feel softer to use the next time around. 

You can put condoms on penetrative toys like dildos, but it’s still recommended to clean with soap and water after use.