Light touch bondage: simple tips for hot sex positions

Bondage and Fetish Guides

When you think of bondage, what’s the first image that comes to mind? Perhaps it’s a naked woman, tied up using an intricate pattern of knots? Perhaps it’s a guy suspended from the ceiling in a web of different kinds of rope? While these forms of bondage can be extraordinarily beautiful, they take a lot of time, practice and skill to perfect – most mere mortals can only look on in awe as skilled riggers work their magic.

That doesn’t mean that bondage can’t be accessible to the average person, though. I was pondering this the other night while my partner gently and carefully secured my wrists and ankles to the struts of the bed. Neither of us is particularly skilled at bondage, although he’s certainly got a decent bit of knot knowledge – mine is limited to granny knots, and even those aren’t always the best.

But we have a lot of fun, because bondage can be enjoyable even if you’re only tying one or two things. With that in mind, I wanted to recommend a few of my favourite sex positions that include bondage rope. I promise all you need for any of these is one length of decent bondage rope, a pair of safety scissors on hand just in case you need to escape quickly, and an enthusiasm for getting shagged while you’re restricted…

Bondage sex positions: safety tips

Before I go any further, a few bondage safety tips:

  • Don’t tie your knots too tightly – if you pull the rope taut you can restrict someone’s blood flow, giving them pins and needles or causing rope burns or pain.
  • Make sure to check in with your tied person if they’re there for a while, ask them to flex their fingers if their wrists are tied, for instance, and make sure they’re not in any pain.
  • Always keep safety scissors on hand. Especially if your knot skills aren’t brilliant, it may be tricky to untie someone in a hurry if they get cramp or run into another problem: scissors mean you can cut the rope quickly and release them.

Simple bondage sex positions

Ankles to the bedpost

One of my favourite sex positions, because it’s ingeniously simple but gives brilliant results. In this one I lie on my back on the bed, and my partner ties my ankles together. Then he raises my legs until they’re folded back against my body, and uses the spare rope from the ankle tie to hook around the struts of the headboard. It leaves me deliciously prone and helpless, but with my hands free so I can use a bullet vibrator for clitoral stimulation – or play with his nipples, grab his bum, or any of the other things that add to a shag – and he can use the rope to brace himself as he shags me.

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Wrists to the bannisters

As soon as you invest in a nice bit of bondage rope, you’ll soon start to see lots of other places around your house that will work well for a simple rope tie. Personally I like the staircase for this – unless you have a fancy Grand Designs house with no handrail or bannisters, you should be able to achieve this too. Take your willing victim and tie their wrists together, then loop the rope around the handrail on your staircase. Don’t have them stand on the stairs themselves – ideally they have their feet firmly planted on the floor in the hallway. You’re basically creating a rudimentary whipping post that they’re secured to, so once they’re there you can use a riding crop, tease them with a powerful wand vibrator, or have your wicked way with them.

Be aware that this position involves them holding their arms above their head, so check in with them regularly to make sure their arms aren’t starting to ache or tingle as the blood flows out.

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Victim to chair

I’m a big fan of butt plugs and prostate massagers, perhaps simply because I have known many men in my life who really enjoy them. There are few joys in life greater than watching someone experience a butt plug for the first time, and really love the sensation of feeling stretched and full, with their prostate getting stimulated.

If you know someone like this, I thoroughly recommend a little chair bondage to focus their mind. Get a butt plug of the size and shape they like the most, and insert it into them. Then get a flat-seated chair (ideally a wooden one rather than a flimsy plastic one – it’s going to need to take a bit of punishment!) and order them to sit down. What you’re going to do with the bondage rope is thread it over their lap and under the chair, tying them quite tightly so you put a little pressure on the butt plug that’s inside them. If you like you can tie their hands too, but I prefer not to – it’s a little safer not to, and it also means their hands are free to touch me during the next bit: the moment when I sit down on their by-now-thoroughly-erect dick, and ride them until they make my favourite noises.

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Simple bondage sex positions – any suggestions?

I never give sex tips expecting that I’m the expert: I am, if anything, just an enthusiastic amateur who has played with lots of different sex positions and sex toys in my time, sharing with you the things that have worked for me. But I am always eager to try new things too, so if you have any simple bondage sex positions that you’d like to share, please do chip in down below in the comments, and I might try and road-test some of yours for a future blog post!

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