In my line of work, I frequently hear from people who say their sex lives aren’t working for them. Whether it’s something physical, mental, emotional or otherwise, they’re not happy with how things are and want them to be different. There are lots of things I can do to help, but I also want to empower people to help themselves.
If something isn’t working for you (and this applies to all areas, not just your sex life), then do something different. Make a change. If you keep doing the same things all the time, you will keep getting the same results.
For example, if you want a new perspective on things, walk down a different side of the road than you normally do. Take a different route to work or eat in a new restaurant. Change things up a bit!
If waiting for your friends to set you up with the perfect date isn’t working, do something different. Hang out in new places, try internet dating, go to a speed dating event or take classes in something you’re interested in – you never know where these experiences might take you!
If you want to try a new sex toy but aren’t sure what your partner will think, show it to them online. Or download the information about it and write a saucy story on the back of it, then give it to them to read.
So often we’re quick to complain that life isn’t flowing how we want it to, but we forget that we have the power to make a difference. If something isn’t working for you, then find a way, however small it may seem at first, to change something. Sometimes, making one or two little changes can make all the difference.