In praise of nipple clamps: BDSM sex toys that won’t hurt your wallet

The first time I ever used nipple clamps, I was pretty nervous: the ones we had were quite hefty, and came with a heavy chain connecting them. The harder you pulled on the chain, the tighter the clamps would tug against you and the more it’d hurt – ouch!

I’m not a masochist particularly. That sounds like an odd thing for a submissive woman with loads of spanking equipment to say, but it’s true. What gets me off is the endurance and hotness of BDSM, not specifically the pain. So the first time I used nipple clamps I was trembling with nerves and ready to tap out if it got too much.

But something about the pleasure/pain combination of nipple clamps was so hot that I couldn’t tap out: the pain lay just on the edge of delicious pleasure, and at the same time I couldn’t help but notice that the guy who was using them on me had a sexy look in his eye that pressed my buttons so hard I thought I’d faint. Nipple clamps are amazing.

How to use nipple clamps

Let’s start with the basics: when you first try nipple clamps you need to start off slowly. As with any new BDSM sex toy, your fun is going to depend heavily on your pain threshold and it’s a good idea to gradually build up tolerance.

Begin with a bit of light nipple play – pinching, sucking, biting, and generally giving the nipples a whole load of sexy attention. Then once they’re hard, feeling good, and you think you’re ready, put the clamps on very gently and slowly.

When you put them on, what you’re aiming to do is attach them as close to the body (the back of the nipple) as you can – try to avoid clamping directly on the tip, because the closer you get to the tip the more it hurts and the harder the nipple clamps can be to remove. You might want to use one finger and thumb to pull the nipple out, then use the other hand to attach the clamp. Let go of the clamp very gently and slowly, so you can squeeze it again (thus releasing the nipple) if the pain gets too much.

Once you’ve got the clamps on, a bit of extra nipple stimulation is always fun: licking around the nipple where the clamp is locked on can be super-intense and really fun. And if you still want more? Well, I can tell you that one of the hottest things a guy’s done to me involves ordering me to hold the chain which ran between two nipple clamps in my mouth while I shagged him. Going on top doesn’t have to be dominant: I’ve rarely felt more sexily submissive than when I was riding him while holding the nipple clamp chain between my teeth, getting a jolt of sexy pain every time I jiggled too hard.

Which nipple clamps should you try?

There are plenty of different kinds of nipple clamps, but I’m going to start with my very favourites:

These squeezer nipple clamps by Bound to Please are the ones I use most often. They’re fairly heavy-duty and they pinch you tight so they’re probably not the best for beginners or those who are a little nervous. But what I love about them is that the harder you pull on the chain, the tighter they pinch, which makes for some excellent ‘predicament BDSM’ like the sex scenario I described above.

These tweezer-style nipple clamps are much better for beginners: they give you much more control over how tightly the clamps will pinch the nipple, so you can start off gently and then get a bit harder if you feel you’d like to later on in play.

These Fifty Shades separate clamps are great if you’d rather not have the chain hanging between the two clamps themselves. And the nice thing is they still have little weights (they’re not heavy, don’t worry!) on them so they’ll tinkle delightfully while you’re shagging.

If you’re after something a little more sensual and stimulating, you can also get wonderful vibrating nipple clamps. Full disclosure: I haven’t actually tried these yet but they’re very much on my wish list for the future! And maybe if I become a bit more of a masochist, then I’ll even get a go with something more hardcore like these adjustable heavy duty nipple clamps from Bound to Please.

So whether you’re a nipple clamp beginner or a long-time lover of nipple clamps, hopefully there’s something here for you to either get started or take your sexy play to the next level! And best of all, nipple clamps are the BDSM toy that can hurt your submissive but never hurt your wallet – everything recommended above comes in at under £20!

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