BDSM basics on a budget

This week’s guest blog is from the lovely CarnalQueen – who’s here to talk about BDSM basics on a tight budget. Even if your wallet’s running low, you can still fill your toybox…


It can be pretty daunting when you take the first tentative steps towards something new, especially something new in the bedroom, because there are lots of things to consider. You might be excited or apprehensive, eager or cautious, and I’d bet money on the fact that you’ve considered how much it’s going to cost you!

It’s a sad reality, but venturing into a new territory often comes at price. New toys, new kit … it’s funny that we never seem to get the new six figure salary to fund it with though. So if you’re looking to explore the wonderful world of BDSM, you’re going to want to be sure you’re getting value for money, and investing in pieces that won’t be shoved to the back of a cupboard, never to see the light of day again after just a couple of uses. But fear not, I can help you out there!

BDSM doesn’t have to be all chains, six feet whips and rubber gimp masks, although there’s a whole heap of fun to be had there, if that’s what tickles your fancy. You can easily and effectively introduce a whole new dimension to your play sessions with just a few basic pieces, that won’t break the bank, or your poor back!

Blindfolds

First on the list, and a BDSM essential in my opinion, is a blindfold. Removing the sight of someone instantaneously heightens their other senses, as well as adding suspense and intrigue. It’s a hugely erotic thing for me, and it’s often the first step people take, when handing over control and confirming their trust in their play partner. Something like this velcro blindfold will do the job nicely, and the lack of an elasticated strap means you don’t have to worry about it going baggy after being around larger heads!

Restraints

Now, a lot of us may admit to having a set of furry handcuffs stuffed in a drawer somewhere, but the reality is, they’re not particularly comfortable to use – they dig in, they’re cumbersome, and they can only be used for their intended purpose. They’re definitely more novelty than naughty!

Restraints of some description are a must though, and for me, versatility is the key to an essential system that you’ll keep going back to. Sure, in the future you may invest in wrist and ankle cuffs, spreader bars and the like, but only once you know your play sessions are heading in that direction.

Until then, and even afterwards, you can’t go wrong with a soft set of restraints like this one. They’re amazingly versatile, and can be used to restrain limbs, to tether someone to a bed or piece of furniture, to tie wrists to ankles, to use as a blindfold … the only limit is your imagination! A set like this can be substituted for ankle and wrist cuffs, bars, hogties and more. What’s not to love? They’re also awesome for traveling with too, so no worries about being stopped in customs and having huge pieces of BDSM kit pulled out of your suitcase, for the whole world to see!

Bondage tape

Continuing with the versatility theme, bondage tape is an invaluable piece of BDSM loveliness, and its uses are virtually limitless. You can make your own restraints … cover a blindfold to stop bits of light seeping in … make sexy outfits with it … make gags … use it to strap toys to the body for forced orgasm scenarios … it’s incredible stuff! It’s cheap and cheerful, your body hair won’t suffer because it only sticks to itself, and it’s a whole lot of fun. A must in any kit.

Sensory play

So, you’ve restrained your willing partner and removed their sight with a blindfold, what can you do to them next? Well, pretty much anything they’ve consented to! Sensory play is high on the list though, and this can be as gentle or as painful as you want it to be. I’d recommend that even a complete BDSM beginner has a couple of things in their armoury that they can use for pleasure and pain, and choosing the implements wisely will mean they’ll provide you with service for a long time to come. I adore feather ticklers for delicious skin seduction, because they can really make the skin come alive! They’re great for erotic, sensual moments, or for awakening the skin before something a little more intense. If you’re interested in impact play, a good flogger will give you more options, by being great for tickling and caressing as well as for serious spanking.

Where you go from there will really depend on your interests and desires, but a basic kit like that comes in at under £50 for everything, and you’ll be sure to use everything again and again. Your eyes and mind will opened to a whole new world of pleasure and passion … you can thank me later!

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CQ is a sex positive blogger, and adult industry writer with a real passion for all things sex! After reviewing adult products for a number of years, she formed Carnal Queen in 2014 to help others to make informed sex toy purchases. It’s now a centre point for her work and musings, and popularity and support continues to grow. She lives in the UK with her Fiancé and their menagerie of animals, and enjoys chatting on social media and all things creative. You can find her on her website, CarnalQueen.com, and on Twitter and Facebook.

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