When Channel 4 first announced that they’d get couples to have sex on live telly, this was definitely not what I thought would happen…
If you’ve never watched Channel 4’s Sex Box, then you need to tune in. Even if you only watch once then decide it’s not for you, the format and aim of the show is a combination of funny, cute, bizarre, and sexy all at once.
The premise is that they invite couples into the studio to have sex. In a box. That much you could guess from the title, probably, but until I sat down and watched it I hadn’t quite grasped what the entertainment factor was.
Sex as performance versus pleasure
The reason I watched last night’s was because a pair of lovely people that I follow on Twitter – @QuietlyKinky – were going to be featured. They’re a horny, adventurous couple who get up to all sorts – including filming their sex and putting it on sites like Xvideos. I assumed that they were going to head to the show and demonstrate just what it is that makes them so sexy.
But it was different. Not that they weren’t sexy (they were – and also an adorable couple), but the premise of the show is to help people explore things that they might not otherwise do.
The other couple who ventured into the box asked for help with vaginal orgasm – they wanted to see if she could orgasm through penetration. Not something all women can do, and it’s one of the reasons why clitoral vibrators and vibrating cock rings are so popular – they give the clit the attention it needs in order for some women to come during sex. However, the intrepid couple wanted to try, so resident sex expert Goedele Liekens gave them some tips, then sent them on their way.
For @QuietlyKinky, however, the question was different: how do you, as an adventurous couple, slow things down and recapture intimacy?
I have to admit, it’s not a question I’ve asked myself much. I’m more of a ‘wham, bam, thank you sir’ kind of person in the bedroom, and quick shags usually rate higher on my ‘oh God’-o-meter than slow ones. But with a few tips on tantric sex, breathing together, and chilling out, @QuietlyKinky (AKA Chris and JoJo) walked out of the box with smiles on their faces.
What would you like to bring to your sex life?
Why am I telling you this? Well, I think there are often lots of guides out there which give too much generic advice – and it’s something I’ve been guilty of before. But one of the things we don’t always realise is that what counts as ‘great’ sex to one person might be awful for someone else. For couples who are already really adventurous, a recommendation that they buy a rabbit vibrator probably won’t be helpful – no doubt they have one already alongside butt plugs, strap-on harnesses, and other adventurous things.
We’re all unique, and it’s easy for those of us with cupboards full of sex toys to think there’s nothing more we can add to our sex lives. But if we keep our minds open and look at things from a different perspective, there will always be something new to try.
If you fancy picking up something new, check out the spring sale – there’s plenty to choose from whether you’re an adventurous type or a total sex toy beginner. And if you spend over £40, you get a free Pearl Palm masturbator. Quick, though – it won’t last long!