Anal sex toys are one of my favourite
things to collect. Not only is it handy to have a variety of
different sizes and shapes of butt plug (because everyone’s
butt-related tolerance is different), but also because if guys are a
little nervous or unsure about anal play, sometimes just showing them a rainbow of different anal toy possibilities gets them hot under the collar.
Anal play isn’t all giant dildos and fisting – despite some
people’s misconceptions that ‘anal sex’ equals ‘extreme.’ If it only ever meant hardcore stretching and pounding I’d probably never have
fallen in love with anal play. As it is, lots of early encounters with smaller objects, vibrating anal toys, and
lubed-up fingers ensured I fell in love with butt stuff and that love will last a lifetime.
Whether you’re an anal beginner or a
seasoned butt-plug pro, there are probably quite a few variations on
anal sex toys that you haven’t tried yet. Here are three of my
favourite unique anal sex toys – and why they’re well worth a go if
you’re a fan of butt stuff.
The first time I ever came face-to-face
with this toy, it was at a sex writers’ conference a couple of years
ago. Will – the owner of Doxy and genius behind the
Doxy Massager –
showed it to me and explained that it’s a powerful vibrator designed
to be used… well, anywhere you like. The bulb on the end works for
clitoral stimulation quite well, but in all honesty the best way to
use this toy is anally.
It basically throbs with the kind of
raw power you’d expect if you were humping a motorbike, but the fact
that the bulb on the end isn’t giant and intimidating means you can
have all the joy of anal vibration, without any of the frustration
that you simply won’t manage to get it in. I’m not exactly an
, but my butt can’t cope with some of the larger dildos
you’d find in the ‘
extreme anal‘ aisle, so when I found the Doxy Don
I was hooked straight away. You can either hold it in your hand and
manoeuvre, or kneel over it and use your hips to grind against it,
giving you a thigh workout at the same time as you enjoy the
Apparently I wasn’t the only one who loved its potential for butt stuff – after a slight name change and a revised marketing strategy, the Don is now proudly marketed as an anal toy. And in my opinion, one of the best ones you can get.
For some people, the potential ‘mess’
of anal is massively offputting. They want the pleasure but without
the worry that a toy might exit the body with something extra
attached. It’s why you shouldn’t ever have buttsex if
you’ve got food poisoning – I have a friend who knows this from
experience. Apologies for getting a bit graphic, but it is one of the hazards of buttsex, and one of the reasons people first start looking at anal douches.
actually hadn’t tried one of these until relatively recently, because
I find with anal that as long as you’re clean and you’ve been to the
toilet fairly recently, you’re usually fine. So I didn’t see the
point of douching, and I was also a bit nervous about what it would
feel like once I’d done it. But after my first attempt, I became a convert. Not because I’d suddenly decided I cared about mess – I just realised that there was a pleasure element to it as well.
To douche, all you need to do is run
some lukewarm (but not hot) water into a sink. Test the temperature
of the water before you put it anywhere near your body – ideally
with a delicate part of your skin like the elbow, which will be more
sensitive to water that is too hot. Once you’ve got the right temperature, put
anal douche in the water and squeeze the bulb. When you release your
hand, the water will be sucked into the bulb through the nozzle and
you’re good to go. Use a little bit of lube on the tip of the nozzle
and insert it inside you, then slowly squeeze the water out into your
It sounds weird, and it definitely
feels weird if this is the first time you’ve done it. It feels a bit
like drinking a cup of tea, but in reverse – a nice, warming
sensation, in a place you wouldn’t expect. Then you just sit on
the toilet and release to let it all out, and do that a few times
until you’re happy.
Although the first time felt weird, the
second time felt actively nice. And the third time felt better.
And… well, I’ll leave the rest to your imagination. But basically
my first go at trying this ended with a pretty intense night of
passionate sex, including a whole bunch of anal stuff that I’d
forgotten how much I loved. Like a new lease of life, but for my
This one is going to be a bit
‘Marmite’, I think: you either love it or you hate it. I’m a big fan
of double penetration in real life. In porn, I find it off-putting
because it always looks like the performers are being challenged to
do the most extreme version of DP – stretching wide, hardcore
vigorous shagging, that kind of thing. In real life, though, when my
partner can take it really slowly, double penetration is deeply
satisfying. It essentially stimulates all of my good bits at once,
so it’s a bit like finishing dinner by having one of each kind of dessert.
I tend to do DP with a strap-on and a
cock – so my partner will wear a strap-on with the silicone cock
angled either above or below his, and then we’ll take it from there.
However, if you don’t have a strap-on harness you might prefer to try something that attaches
directly to a penis. This ‘double dip’ toy is designed as an anal toy
with a cock ring attachment – so you put your cock through the
hole, and that secures it in place, then use the shaped attachment
for anal penetration.
Not found the anal sex toy you’re
Don’t worry – there are plenty more.
In fact, I think ‘anal’ is the sex toy category with possibly the
greatest variety around. Butt plugs of every colour, shape and size.
which present a real sexual challenge. Vibrating toys
like the Don by Doxy… oh I could go on forever. Go have a
at the anal sex toys section
, and pick up something that makes
you go ‘oooh.’