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The G-spot and Female Ejaculation

The idea of female ejaculation and what is now known as the G-spot has caused quite a lot of controversy over the years. For centuries it was debated as to whether the G-spot existed and ejaculation was thought to either be a myth or perhaps urine at best. Actually, many ancient cultures left records showing their knowledge and acceptance of the G-spot and female ejaculation and in fact, thought the ejaculate to be sacred and even healing. These fluids were considered to be nectar, divine amrita from the goddess. In some cultures, people queued up to get just a small sip of this magical elixir! Somehow this information was lost over time.


There were some investigations into it  during the 16th and 17th centuries and a few scientists and sexologists wrote about it in the 60’s and early 70’s but still it remained a mystery and was not fully understood. Fortunately, in the last 25 years, the G-spot has been identified, studied and written about and now women can get on with exploring and discovering it for themselves.

The G-spot (named after Ernst Gräfenberg, a German doctor that studied female orgasm in the 50’s) is an actual organ similar to the male prostate. It is situated around the urethra, and extends from the outside of the body to further inside the vagina. You can access part of it by gently massaging or tapping around the urethral opening. The rest of the gland is accessed just inside the top of the vagina. It usually feels like a ridged, bumpy area and is more developed in some women than others.  It consists of a series of glands, which produce the prostatic fluid, and ducts that lead into the urethra.

Women learning about their G-spot and ejaculation have many different experiences. Some women will find stimulating their g-spot feels amazing, orgasmic and brings new heights of pleasure. However, the g-spot can hold a lot of tension, physically and energetically. Women often hold societal conditioning, fears, past traumas, etc within their G-spot and so when first getting to know that area, can experience a lot of emotions and sometimes tenderness, discomfort or pain. It can take time and patience to move through this to potential enjoyment with the G-spot. It is definitely well worth the perseverance!

The quickest, easiest way to find your own G-spot, or someone else’s, is to use plenty of lubricant and gently insert just the pad of your finger (facing towards the front of her body) and have the woman push down. The part you feel move inside her is the g-spot. You should be able to feel a definite ridged area. This is the main body of the G-spot. Take your time to feel around it. You can move your fingers to the sides and back a bit. See what feels good and take it very slowly. Try putting a little bit of pressure on different areas and see how that feels. You might find that sadness,  discomfort or arousal appears. Keep feeling into it and see if you want to carry on, try something different, or stop altogether. If it feels right you can continue to explore with a finger or a special toy designed to reach the G-spot. The Icicles Flower G-Spot Dildo or the Ben Dover G Spot Smoothie are great toys to start with.

Once you’re comfortable with your g-spot you can move on to exploring ejaculation. The fluid produced by the g-spot can either flow out of the body or retrograde back towards the bladder. Female ejaculation is not widely known about and so it’s believed that lots of women hold on tightly when they feel the urge to ejaculate because they think they need to pee. Actually it’s probably very often prostatic fluid that wants to be released. Modern women are not usually encouraged to ‘just let go’ so it can take some retraining the body and mental attitudes for women to feel safe and comfortable enough to have a big release. If you want to try it, take time to get really relaxed and very aroused. Have some big towels ready and if you’re worried about making everything wet, get either a PVC Bed Sheet or  the Touche Body Slide Mat. Using your finger, a partner’s finger or a g-spot toy, build up your arousal and especially the stimulation of your G-spot. You might spontaneously start to ejaculate or you might feel the urge to pee or press down. Give yourself permission to let go, to release. Most women don’t ‘squirt’ like porn stars, rather they find that they either run like a tap, flood or gush. You will know it’s prostatic fluid because it is clear and has a delightful, woody smell.

Getting to know your G-spot and getting comfortable with ejaculation takes time, commitment and perseverance. Don’t give up if it’s not pleasant at first. Make sure you’re really relaxed, and just see what happens. You can also try the Organic Discover G Spot Gel or the Oooh That’s It G-Spot Gel and Guide. Both come with a lubricant gel and booklet to help you find your way. With a bit of exploration, you’ll at least get to know your body better and maybe you’ll find new ways to experience pleasure too!

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