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No such thing as a ‘sexual peak’

There is this urban myth that men peak sexually around the age of 18 and women peak around 40. It’s funny to me this idea of anyone having a ‘sexual peak’. Where did that come from? Why does anyone believe it? As far as I can tell, and I’ve researched this quite a bit, there isn’t actually any scientific evidence for this. Honestly, I can’t see what purpose it serves to entertain this idea at all.


First of all, how sad for us all if men really did peak at 18! They’re just getting started as sexual beings and it’s all over? Ridiculous! Their hormones might have just settled down and they might finally have some clear thinking back but that doesn’t mean they’ve peaked. It means they’re starting to mature into themselves, their bodies, their emotions, etc. They’re just starting to work out what they want to do with all those sexual desires, how to handle them, how to be great lovers. Believe me, it’s not over at 18 for men, it’s just starting for them.

Then we’ve got this strange idea that women hit their sexual peak at 40. I reckon that myth got started when it became more socially acceptable for people to divorce. Suddenly women who had got married and had kids in their 20’s were free to find out who they were, what they liked and how to express themselves in the world. For lots of women that included exploring their sexuality. Perhaps women being seen as sexually empowered were then misinterpreted as women hitting their ‘peak’?

Isn’t it sad that women in their 40’s who are exploring their sexuality are said to be in their prime even though men of the same age doing the same thing are said to be having a midlife crisis? At the other end of the spectrum you have 18 year old men who are said to be in their prime, while women of 18 exploring their sexuality are often considered sluts. Starting to see the problem here?

I could get all political and angry here, but actually, I’m going in a different direction. Yes, these myths exist. Yes, some people buy into them blindly. However, I like to think that we have lots of peaks and troughs as we go through life. When we are feeling healthy, happy and on top of the world, we are probably enjoying our sexuality more, expressing it more easily. When we feel ill or under pressure for prolonged periods of time, it’s possible that our sexual selves get put on hold or hide under the covers for a while. That’s just natural and not at all about age.

Life has it’s ups and downs, it’s good times and it’s difficult times. Our sex lives are no different. It’s more about your attitude, health and what you’re choosing. Yes, your body’s chemicals might change, as might your desires but if you want to be sexual into your 90’s or beyond there is no reason not to!

Personally, I’m planning to be sexual till the end of my days! How about you?

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