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Erotic massage (AKA Nuru massage) – tips, tricks and sex toy special offers

Erotic massage has to be one of the most relaxing and enjoyable ways to begin a play session. You get to touch – and be touched – all over, paying attention to areas that often get overlooked in favour of heading straight for the genitals. What’s more, with the right massage oil and some sheets to catch any mess, you can use your whole body as a tool to give pleasure to your partner.

Today I’m going to share with you some of my top tips for giving a great erotic massage, as well as advice on the best massage oils and equipment to stock up on to make sure you give your partner the very best.

What exactly is ‘Nuru massage’?

If erotic massage were a pair of furry handcuffs, Nuru massage is full-on BDSM. ‘Nuru’ is a Japanese word meaning ‘slippery’ or smooth, and it refers to the act of using your whole body to massage someone else. I first learned of Nuru massage when I lived in Japan – I was introduced to it when I visited a love hotel (like a normal hotel but with sexily-decorated rooms that are rented by the hour for the sole purpose of banging). My partner and I discovered a soft, wipe-clean mat thing in the bathroom and wondered what it was for, then later that evening we turned on the TV to find – among other channels that were showing pure porn – a how-to guide which demonstrated how to give someone a Nuru massage.

What I’m saying here, is that while I’m by no means an expert on Nuru massage, I’ve watched an entire how-to video on it, so I’ve got at least a few tricks up my sleeve.

Whichever term you use for it – erotic massage or Nuru massage – if you want to get stuck in you’re going to need a few key things.

Erotic massage: setting the scene

The first thing you’ll need is a fluidproof sheet – as big as possible, ideally, because you want to give yourself lots of room to work. Luckily for you, SexToys.co.uk currently has not one but TWO fluidproof sheets in the January sale. One king-sized fluidproof sheet in black, and one kingsize fluidproof sheet in fuschia. They usually retail for £39.95 but right now you can buy either for less than £20.

Get a fluidproof sheet because this gets messy!

The other thing you’ll need is massage oil – and lots of it! There are plenty of different types to choose from here, but the main thing you need to know is that for Nuru massage, where you’ll be using your whole body, you want quite a decent quantity of it.

These 3-in-1 edible massage candles are great if you just want to do shoulder/back/bum massages and you won’t be using your whole body, but they can take a while to burn down and get enough oil, so you might want to check out these bottles of edible massage oil instead. Alternatively, if you want to get really slippery, you can pick up Mr Nori’s Nuru Gel in huge 1 litre tubs, or grab some Slube bath gel which will allow you to make a whole bathful of slippery stuff.

Pick up some edible massage oil

Erotic massage: tips and tricks

When you’ve laid out your fluidproof sheet, and got your slippery substance of choice on standby, get your willing volunteer to lie down and make themselves comfortable. This isn’t a salon, so make the most of the fact that you don’t need to be coy and have them lie on their front: during a couples massage your partner can lie on their back or even on their side to give you easy access to their best bits.

Oil up your hands first, and start giving them firm caresses wherever they’d like. Feel free to let your hands wander. When you’re massaging someone, long firm strokes are usually the best way to begin – try to put a bit of pressure on them but not too much, you don’t want them to be crushed! If you’re unsure, ask your partner to guide you with feedback on pressure, speed, and the places you’re touching them.

Now comes the fun part. If you want to give a full-body exotic massage, hopefully by now you’ll also be naked and a bit covered in oil. Pour on more oil, and spread it all over your body – get your partner to help you too! When you’re both suitably doused and slippery, try lying flat on top of them, and using your hands and feet to slide yourself gently up and down their body. Let the oil do most of the work, and just feel yourself sliding over them.

Slube bath goo gives you the slipperiest bang for your buck!

You can also try sitting on top of them (I like reverse cowgirl position) and using your oiled-up bum to rub against their genitals. Or if they’re feeling energetic, you could initiate some playful ticking or wrestling. For this I’d strongly recommend you have your sheet on the floor, as nothing kills a sexy mood quite like two people falling off the bed onto the floor.

Above all though, my best tip for Nuru massage (or erotic massage, or couples massage – whichever term and technique you prefer!) is to tell yourselves that you’re not going to have sex. Don’t label it ‘foreplay’ or plan for what will happen when things inevitably escalate into blow jobs, hand jobs or more – tell yourselves that this is all about just feeling the pure pleasure of your two bodies sliding delightfully over each other. You probably will want to have sex at the end of this, if you’re anything like me, but the longer you prolong the erotic massage, the more you make yourself wait. And you’ll probably end up having orgasms that you know were well worth waiting for!

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