Whether you’ve been with your partner for a long time or not, it can be easy to assume that you know what each other will like in the bedroom. Maybe you assume that they would never want to try something new or they assume that you always like using a particular vibrator? The thing is, we all change, we evolve and so do our desires. That happens on a day-to-day basis as well as over longer periods of time.
For example, sometimes our partners like us to nibble their ears or stroke their thighs. On other days they might not be in the mood for that. However, if it worked once, sometimes we get stuck thinking that’s the thing they like.
When you first got together with your partner you might have not wanted to try sex toys, anal sex or other new things, but as the relationship has deepened and become more intimate over time you might feel ready to try these things. Your partner might not realize that though. If there were no-go areas at one time, they might not feel confident to suggest them again.
So don’t make any assumptions about what your partner might like and don’t assume they know what you want to get up to either. Make sure you communicate regularly about what you fancy. That way you always keep things fresh and never run out of sexy possibilities!