Kinky Sex

Men and women are increasingly using sex toys when masturbating. In some cases unfortunately this can lead to a partner feeling jealous or insecure.

When you first think of Kinky sex, what comes to mind? A little light bondage, wearing latex or leather? The key to kinky sex is that there is not a right or wrong definition, being kinky is about being a little adventurous but how far you go is up to you.

If you have had a normal sex life, sometimes throwing fetishes and kinks into the mix may make your partner fell uncomfortable, so ease into things slowly and see how your partner responds. Sometimes the best inspiration comes from watching movies together or reading erotic novels together, which opens a platform for communication, allowing you to discuss what you perhaps would like to do. Novels and short stories are wonderful for this, as they give an insiders view to how things feel. If you do want your partner to try new things with you, make sure that their idea of kinky sex is the same as yours. Pleasure is a two way street, and your fantasies and desires may not be the same as your partners, make sure your wants will thrill and excite your partner as much as they will you.

Things to try:

Dressing up

This is especially easy for women as there is a huge range of quality costumes and sexy lingerie on offer. Whether it is a nurse’s uniform or a corset dressing up is a great way to spice things up. Try and choose something together, as your idea of sexy may not be your partner’s. Discuss what you want together, browse the internet seeing what’s available before purchasing your desired item. Remember there maybe moments of awkwardness before you become turned on and feel sexy as well as look sexy. The key here is trust and understanding, don’t force your partner into wearing something that makes them feel too self-conscious as they will not find the experience an enjoyable one.

Different Sex toys

Chances are that if you are reading this you have already tried sex toys whether it is a basic vibrator or a strap on. The key too improving your sex life and making it kinkier through toys is to try the things that you wouldn’t normally use. Why not try adding toys and dressing up together, set a whole scene, if you or your partner has a thing for being dominant, go the whole hog, the outfit, the toys, blindfold and restraints. Remember though to have fun with it; it will not be enjoyable unless the both of you are having fun.

Outdoor Sex

Outdoor sex can be a fun way of adding extra spice and kink to your sex life. The main thing about Outdoor sex is the feeling of “naughtiness”, the heightened sensations that come from increased awareness due to the chance of getting caught. Exhibitionism plays a part too if you go for a public place where you have more of a chance of getting caught. Find a place that both you and your partner feel comfortable and if you are not one for public exhibitionism make sure it is well off the beaten track, away from prying eyes. While a dark alley maybe your idea of a perfect place, your partner’s idea maybe more of a secluded wood, make sure you both know what you want from the experience and communicate your needs to each other.

Roleplay

The combination of dressing up and acting can be exciting and stimulating for both you and your partner. However this takes some preparing and a lot of communication, it isn’t something you can do spontaneously. Work out what scenario you want to enact and prepare the scene, don’t just limit to the bedroom, the living room or the kitchen can be just a exciting place to have kinky sex. The smaller details while role-playing can lead to the most fun, if you’re playing the part of a French maid don’t forget the feather duster as it can lead to much tickling fun. Enjoy the build up, anticipation, the secret fun of preparing yourself for the encounter can lead to increased enjoyment. Plan in advance leaving a few days of build up before the night, make sure you have all the props and toys you need at hand and enjoy yourself!

Videotaping & Photographing

Videotaping can be fun but can also be a scary experience for some people. The thought of having your tape, DVD or pictures lost or seen by others, is enough to lessen anyone’s amore. The key thing is to make sure that your personal show is put somewhere safe, where you and your partner can find it, but cannot get mixed up with other video’s or DVD’s. Also make sure your partner is fully comfortable with what you are doing and is happy to let you continue, whether you have a camera on a tripod, or perhaps having someone film or take pictures, make sure you all understand before hand what is happening and the rules and stipulations surrounding it.