1. I really enjoy being tied up and have already tried using bondage tape, restraints and cuffs. I feel like a change, are there any other ways I can be restrained?

There is a beautiful Japanese style of bondage called Shibari that is just as much of an art form as it is a fetish act. Using, thick, strong, soft bondage rope (usually cotton) there is usually a Dom and Sub role or an Artist and Artwork role to be played. The person tying the rope will do so around their partner’s body, making intricate patterns and clever knots to either restrain or support them from a structure. The rope takes to the form and curves of the person being tied up and depending on how advanced the rope work, the patterns of the rope look like a piece of art visually. It is also these knots when located in certain areas that stimulate certain parts of the body, much like acupuncture but with rope!

2. My partner and I are thinking about dressing up more when we have sex but are unsure where to start! Any ideas?

This is entirely down to personal preference as you know best what does it for you. There’s role play costumes for most scenarios these days which includes but is not limited to: nurses, angels, bunnies, convicts, sailors and marines . Then you have bondage and BDSM style outfits which incorporate masks, ball gags, gloves, pvc underwear, whips, chains and restraints which is more of a hard-core style. You could also strip it right down to different types of underwear; there are crotchless panties, nipple tassels, stockings and novelty boxers to name but a few! There really is something for everyone, perhaps work out what fantasies you want to recreate and go from there?

3. My boyfriend is really into spanking and I’m getting bored of just using my hand or a ruler to teach him a lesson. What else could I use that would get the job done and well?

Depending on how he likes to be spanked best you can choose from a variety of spanking-specific products that will leave him sore and wanting more! There’s whips, paddles, crops and floggers that all offer different types of sensations when used in different ways. Usually made from suede, rubber and leather each item covers a different surface area causing different types of pain he’s guaranteed to love.

4. I’m a massive tease and have used many techniques to keep my man on the edge in the past; I recently heard about chastity products and that they are great for power play. What are they and what can he expect to feel when I use them?

Chastity products are designed to restrain a man’s erection or to have control over/delay his orgasm. This is achieved by using lockable or closable cages, sheaths and restraints. Made of plastic, metal or leather these tools keep him under control while you stay firmly in control.