Touch is absolutely essential for us humans to thrive. Science has proven this over and over again, and let’s face it, we just know it intuitively anyway.We need a good regular dose of some form of touch, not necessarily sexual, in order to be healthy, grounded and sane.
I recently had the misfortune to read an article by a supposed sex educator that really shocked me. The author had met a woman who was telling her about her breast orgasms. The sex educator wasn’t aware that this was possible and even said that she found the idea of a woman orgasming without genital stimulation ‘perplexing’. I was astonished to hear this! A sex educator that thought the only route to orgasm was genital stimulation? Then I thought, well, if she doesn’t know, maybe there are lots of people who don’t know. So I’m going to share a little something with you…
It’s so easy to say harsh things or be more critical of our partners when we’re tired, overworked, or stressed. Whether we’re complaining about the washing up or how they didn’t do just the right thing to turn you on, these negative comments often hit harder than they’re intended. Negative feelings and thoughts have a heavier impact on a person than positive ones. They can sort of cause a shock in the system. Over time this can build up and affect our self-esteem and our relationships.
Remember when you were a kid and the teacher announced that you would have ‘Show and tell’ the next day? For any of you not sure what I’m on about, let me explain: We had to find an object, sometimes appropriate to a particular theme, sometimes just something special to us and bring it in to school. Then one by one we had to come to the front of the class and talk about the object. Sometimes the teacher or class would ask questions. We had to ‘show’ the item and then ‘tell’ about it. Sometimes it was fun and interesting and sometimes it was just plain terrifying. Standing up in front of the class, talking about something precious to yourself brings you into close contact with your vulnerability.
Here’s a simple yet seductive way to get your partner to beg you to touch them, fuck them, and generally ravish them. Treat them to some sensual and erotic touch, all over their body APART from their genitals. Imagine a wide circle around their genitals that includes their lower belly, hips and tops of their thighs and leave that part out – for now.