There are some sex toys that only last about five minutes on my wish list before either I or my partner buys them. Furry tail butt plugs, for instance, press his 'hot' buttons as well as mine, so it didn't take long from 'ooh that looks nice' to a package arriving – discreetly wrapped – in the post. Other sex toys, however, require anticipation: either allowing me time to persuade my other half that he really wants to try them with me, or a little extra money, or both.
Sex and the naked body to some maybe even most, is still very much a private topic. Through her illustrated series of works, French Artist, Marion Fayolle seeks to challenge people's perceptions through playful scenes of mix-ed up body parts, erotically recontextualized with odd inanimate objects.
One of the most widespread sexual worries facing men is whether their todger is "big enough". It's a worry made worse by the size of the fellas in the porn industry - pretty much the only visual comparison most men will ever see (let's face it, unless you're gay or live a swingers lifestyle you're unlikely to be in the same room as another guy with an erection).
In my private practice, I often see men who fear that their penis is small and therefore couldn’t possibly pleasure a woman. It breaks my heart every single time I hear this. Somehow, our society has come to believe that bigger is always better. And it’s not just penises either. We promote the idea that bigger houses, cars or breasts make us appear more successful, more wanted, more loveable.
I recently had the misfortune to read an article by a supposed sex educator that really shocked me. The author had met a woman who was telling her about her breast orgasms. The sex educator wasn’t aware that this was possible and even said that she found the idea of a woman orgasming without genital stimulation ‘perplexing’. I was astonished to hear this! A sex educator that thought the only route to orgasm was genital stimulation? Then I thought, well, if she doesn’t know, maybe there are lots of people who don’t know. So I’m going to share a little something with you…