Sometimes your opinions on something are so complicated that it's impossible to come to any kind of definite conclusion. Instead of falling on one side – or even just off the centre – of an argument you find yourself circling the middle of an issue, looping around it like a moth round a desk lamp.
I often get emails from people who feel their sex life isn’t up to scratch because it isn’t like the porn they watch, or the latest celebrity sex scandal. They seem to have the idea that if they’re not regularly swinging from the chandeliers or taking it up the bum then they must be doing it wrong. Time and again people tell me that they feel like they’re supposed to be living up to some wild, at-it-all-the-time sex life, which in reality isn’t what they want or what suits them.