Blog - Strapless strap-ons: what are they and how do you use them?

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By Girl on the Net 7 months ago 894 Views 1 comment

It sounds like an oxymoron, but strapless strap-ons are definitely A Thing. Designed to provide delicious sensations to both the giver and the receiver, these unique toys are well worth a try if you're a fan of pegging. But how the hell do you use them?

Let's begin with a few definitions: pegging is the term for strap-on sex between a guy and a girl. When two people love each other very much (or just met on Tinder and fancy a fun night), the girl takes a strap-on harness and her favourite dildo, the guy lubes himself up, and they have a pretty awesome shag.

If you've never experienced pegging before, then you might want to start off with a basic strap-on set: a simple harness plus a slim dildo that you can use to get accustomed to it. As someone who has pegged a few guys in the past, I can tell you that it does take some getting used to: the trickiest thing is working out the right angle of entry – no mean feat when you have no sensation in the silicone dildo itself. But that's a problem easily solved by getting your pegging partner to help you guide it in.

So how do you go from strap-on sex to strapless strap-ons?

Strapless strap-ons

Strapless strap-ons (I've written it so much now it hardly looks like a real word any more) are like normal dildos at one end, but they curve around and have a bulb at the other end. The bulb is there for you to hold inside you – clenching your pelvic floor muscles around it, while you shag away at your partner with the dildo end.

It's a genius move designed to give the strap-on wearer a bit more pleasure while they're pegging. Many, like this Simply Strapless Strap-on , also include a bullet vibrator in the base and a slightly textured area where the dildo would rub up against your clit: hey presto! Sensation.

How do I hold a strapless strap-on in?

Here's where we get to the tricky part: in order to keep the strapless strap-on inside you, you need to do two things. First choose your size carefully – the Simply Strapless one mentioned above comes in a few different sizes, and generally speaking the larger the bulb the easier it should be to hold in. At least that's how it works for me - your experience may differ depending on the size/shape of your vagina and how much lube you're using (or producing).

When I was younger, I tried using a strapless strap-on that came in the 'small' size. With the size of the bulb, and a little too much lube, I got really frustrated that it simply kept slipping out. So test yourself with other sex toys that you might have lying around the house (what do you mean you don't have a bunch of sex toys lying around the house? You should come here more often, my friend).

The second thing is practise. Luckily, this isn't practise like studying for a test, it's the fun kind of practise that means you get to do lots of pegging with your partner, testing out different positions and ideas until you find what works for you. Try different sex positions, such as doggy, that allow you to keep your legs together (for that all-important clenching). It's also well worth trying out 'cowgirl', with your partner on top – a position I recommend for all eager pegging beginners, because not only does it mean you have your hands free to control your strap-on, it means your partner can ease their way onto it and take things at their own pace. Additional bonus: they look incredibly hot sliding down onto you.

How do I know which strap-on is right for me?

Ah, the 64-million-dollar question. There's no way I can tell you exactly what will work for you – it'll depend a lot on the pegging positions you like best, what you get out of the experience (is it more visual, power play, or pure sensation?), and of course what your partner likes too. But if you've had a go at pegging with a standard strap-on and you're looking to experiment with new sensations, the strapless strap-on might give you that extra je ne sais quois. The bulb that you hold inside your vagina should stimulate your g-spot, while the vibrator and texture on the dildo shaft give you something to grind up against. Combined with a smooth, slim dildo that's easy to thrust with? Strap in and prepare for an awesome ride.

See what I did there?

If pegging isn't your thing, check out last week's blog post on budget Valentine's Day gift ideas or browse our most popular sex toys - you're bound to find something that flips your switch.

Mr John Mullen 5 months ago at 10:59
We would like to find a real feel hollow strap on penis, preferably with a vibrating option, I can use on my female partner. Most of the ones we have tried are just too hard and rigid . Any suggestions?