My partner only wants sex if I dress up

Dear Rebecca,

I recently dressed up for my boyfriend and he really loved it. I went all the way with a sexy purple corset, stockings, high heels – the whole nine yards! We had really hot sex that night! However, since then, he only seems to want to have sex when I dress up. Don’t get me wrong, I do like to dress up, but I miss having regular naked sex too. What should I do?




Hi Susan,

Thank you for your email. How fabulous that you experimented with dressing up in sexy clothes and got such a great response from your boyfriend. It’s always fun to try something new and exciting, especially when our partner likes it too.

Perhaps the novelty and thrill of you dressing up just hasn’t worn of for your partner. As with anything in life, there needs to be balance though. I’d recommend that you talk to him and tell him how you’re feeling. Let him know just how much you love dressing up, and that you’d still like to do it from time to time, but that you’d also like regular, naked sex too.  Tell him that you don’t want the dressing up to feel like a chore or to get old and stale too soon. Also tell him that you want to feel his skin on your skin and how much that turns you on.

Another possibility is to tell him it’s his turn to dress up for you!

With love,


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