My boyfriend wants us to try sex toys

Dear Rebecca,

I’ve only been with my boyfriend for a few months and he’s just suggested we get some sex toys. I have really mixed feelings about this. I’m wondering if he’s bored with me already or if I’m not as good as his last partner. Also, I’ve never used any sex toy before and am afraid I’ll look stupid if I don’t know what to do. Please can you help?



Hi Cathy,

Thank you for your email. It’s very probable that your boyfriend is enjoying sex with you so much that he’s looking for ways to keep it fresh and exciting. Sex toys can add all sorts of fun and enjoyment to your sex life, even when it’s already fantastic.

If you’re really concerned about his motives, talk to him about it.  Tell him your worries and see what he has to say. Chances are that he just wants to fan the flames of what you already have together. You’ll feel much better if you clear the air between you before buying any toys.

Once you feel satisfied with his motives, talk to him about what you both might like to try. You can have a look through our website and see what you both fancy. All of our toys have descriptions that help you to know what they are for. That way, when you get it you’ll have an idea of where to begin. Rather than having to figure out what to do on your own, you and your boyfriend can explore how you want to use it together.

Here’s a couple of ideas of toys to start with:

The Tantus Silk Small Silicone Dildo – Just perfect for your first time. It’s well made, nicely shaped and has a wonderfully sensual texture. You might like him to use it on you or maybe you allow him to watch you use it on yourself. Very sexy indeed!

Chocolate Body Paint – Have tons of fun and a deliciously sensual time as well. Paint chocolate all over each other’s bodies and take turns to like it off. Yum!

Sportsheets Soft Blindfold – When you have one of your senses taken away, it immediately heightens your other senses. Blindfold your partner and then treat them to a soft, erotic massage, tickle him with a feather or gently nibble him all over. He’ll absolutely love it and can then return the favour!

With love,



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