How do I tell my husband I want to try sex toys…

Dear Rebecca,

I’ve been married for 4 years and my husband and I have never tried any sex toys. I’d really like us to try something new, but not sure how to bring it up with him. Do you have any suggestions for how to introduce the idea to him?

Thanks for your help,


Hi Daniella,

Thank you for your email. There are several ways you could let your husband know you’d like to try some sex toys. If it feels right, you could try the direct approach. Wait until the time is right, when he’s relaxed and not in a rush. Then tell him how much you enjoy your sex life and that you were wondering if he’d be interested in exploring something new together? If he seems open to the idea, tell him what toys you’re interested in and why you’d like to try them.

Personally I think the direct approach is the best, but if that feels too uncomfortable, there are a few ways you can hint and see what reaction you get before saying more. For example, you could try sending him an email with a link to some of the toys you’d like to try. Or even better, send him a link to the website and tell him you’d like to look at it together later (wink, wink). Then you could sit down together and go through the toys, pointing out what you like and why. Could be fun and definitely eye-opening!

Of course, this time of year, you could always give him a Christmas wish list that happens to include a few items you’ve carefully chosen. Even if he doesn’t buy them, he’ll know that you’re interested.

Hope it all goes really well and that you’re having fun with sexy new toys soon.

With love and delight,


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