Sex Toys can be something of an enigma. It can be difficult to know when and how to bring them into a relationship. Some people may find the introduction of sex toys into a relationship daunting and it can bring up questions such as “Am I doing something wrong?” or lead to feelings of inadequacies on both sides of a relationship. Unfortunately it is society’s misconceptions that have led to these thoughts and feelings, there is nothing wrong with introducing a bit of spice into any relationship. It can even be an enlightening and satisfying experience, furthering trust and understanding between partners.

Choosing a sex toy should be an adventure. Time where you and your partner can sit down and talk about what you both want out of the experience and choose something together that meets both of your needs. Don’t dive straight into the scary bigger toys, start off slow, choose something that both of you find non-threatening. Communication is key when buying and using toys for the first time, a huge amount of trust is involved the first time, especially if one partner is apprehensive. Listen to what your partner thinks and feels, if there is something you wish to try that your partner is apprehensive about start slowly, build up to it, make sure you are both totally at ease or a positive experience could be turned into a negative one.

Once you have chosen a toy and have had the delight of unwrapping your new treasure you need to set the mood. Candles and soft music are the perfect platform to start off any sexual experience. Make the time special, unplug the phone, turn off the TV and concentrate fully on your partner, remember it is as new for them as it is for you. Slow sensual stimulation before bringing out the new toy is a good idea. Soft and loving touch heightens the sensations and helps towards a relaxing and enjoyable encounter.

When the time is right to introduce your new toy, take it slow, and relax into the sensations it gives you and your partner, make sure if you need lubrication you have it on hand, there is nothing worse than having to break the moment in search for something, and returning to find the moment has passed. Be honest and open, if you are not enjoying it, say so and stop, there is nothing wrong with admitting the toy you have chosen isn’t for you. Maybe the time isn’t right, stop and perhaps later try again. You also need to listen to your partner and look out for their reactions. Communication is essential and if they show any signs of discomfort stop. If you or your partner decides to stop and that the toy isn’t for you, try something else, there is a huge range of toys on the market, and there is something out there for everyone.

If you or your partner has issues, discuss them, there is no shame in being scared or apprehensive; discussing worries can form a strong bond and increase trust and understanding within a relationship.

But most importantly Relax have fun and enjoy it.

• Try and choose something to suit both you and your partner’s needs together.
• Communicate before hand, during and afterwards.
• Set the Mood and relax
• Start Slowly, simply and gently, paying attention to your partner
• Make sure you use lubrication and have it on hand if needed
• Don’t be afraid to stop if you or your partner is apprehensive
• Talk out any Issues
• Be patent and Understanding
• Don’t be afraid to let your feelings be heard
• Make sure you know how to clean and care for your new sex toy

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