Do it on the dirty laundry

I recently read an article where the author was condemning sexpert’s advice that said things like, ‘set the space, light some candles’ or ‘set aside 2 hours to be with your partner…’ etc. She was ranting that in her busy life, with a husband, 2 kids and a full time job she just didn’t have [...]

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My first date with a man

Dear Rebecca, I’ve thought for a long time that I might be bisexual but have never done anything about it. I recently met a nice guy at a party and he’s asked me out. I said yes, but am really nervous. What if he wants to have sex on our first night? I’m not sure [...]

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Using bondage to de-stress

Playing with different types of bondage and restraint can add all sorts of extra fire and naughtiness to your sex life, and it can also be good for your health! Being restrained, unable to do anything at all, can actually help you to surrender into deep relaxation! If your partner is feeling particularly overworked, stressed [...]

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I don’t feel sexy anymore…

Dear Rebecca, I’ve had a really busy couple of years with work and family commitments and recently I realized that I don’t feel sexy anymore. I used to be quite a sexual person, but can’t remember how that felt. How do I get back to my usual sexy self? Hope you can help. Thanks, Amber [...]

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A very different D/s experience

I am lucky enough to have a dear friend that is very experienced on the kink scene, in particular as a Dom. He lives it 24/7 in a committed triad relationship. We have played together, off and on, for the last couple of years. What usually happens is that he and his partner co-top my [...]

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Spring clean your sex life

This is the perfect time of year to have a good spring clean, not just of your home, but also of your whole sex life. It feels great to have a good, deep clear out at home. Pull the furniture out, clear the cobwebs away, throw out old clothes and things you don’t use anymore. [...]

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We haven’t had sex for four years

Dear Rebecca, My partner and I have been together for 10 years and the last 4 years have been mostly sexless. We went through a stressful period and sex sort of fell by the wayside. We’ve never quite got back to it. Do you have any tips for how we can reignite things? Thanks, Margaret [...]

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My boyfriend wants us to try sex toys

Dear Rebecca, I’ve only been with my boyfriend for a few months and he’s just suggested we get some sex toys. I have really mixed feelings about this. I’m wondering if he’s bored with me already or if I’m not as good as his last partner. Also, I’ve never used any sex toy before and [...]

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We’re new to bondage

Dear Rebecca, My partner and I are really interested to try bondage, but I’m a little nervous about the first time. What if he does something I don’t like when I’m tied up? Is there a way to do it without feeling so vulnerable? Thanks, Jackie Hi Jackie, Thank you for your email. Bondage has [...]

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How can I be sexual and single without sleeping around?

I recently came across a blog in which a woman had asked, ‘How do I cope with my strong sexual energy when I’m single and don’t want to sleep around? I don’t want to suppress this energy, I want to learn how to live as a balanced spiritual, emotional, physical and sexual being – even [...]

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